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SEXUAL RELATED.

 

1)           NO NEED MARRIAGE WHEN YOU CAN GET EVERYTHING

 

2)           EVILS OF ZINA (FORNICATION)

 

3)           SEXUAL RELATIONS OF MARRIED COUPLE

 

4)           Marriage: Sexual Relations

 

5)           Masturbation

 

6)           Sexual TASTE FROM BEHIND

 

7)           Relationship: Boy or Girl Friend

 

8)           Homosex:

 

9)           BROWSING PORN WEBSITES

 

10)           SEX EDUCATION

 

11)       NEW DISEASES SUCH AS SARS AND AIDS

 

12)      INTERCOURSE WITH WIFE IN MENSTRUATION

 

13)      RULING ON OPERATIONS TO REPAIR THE HYMEN

 

14)      GETTING RID OF FETUS DUE TO ILLEGAL RELATIONS

 

15)      ABORTION OF A FETUS FROM A ZINA RELATIONSHIP

 

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1. NO NEED MARRIAGE WHEN YOU CAN GET EVERYTHING

Question :

Why marriage is necessary, whereas we can have all that without marriage, without responsibility, without expenditure, without problem and without consent of parents and family? That is sex taste and children. And separation without any bad feeling on both sides.  What is the punishment for illegal relations between a man and a woman?

Answer :

What you say is now the practice in Western World. Couples live together for months and years without marriage. They also get the children and sometimes leave them to charity organization, if they think it is unwanted. Or being raised by women when their boyfriend leaves them.  All this behaviour is like of animals, who don’t have to care for legal sexual relations,

This all is due to their concept of treating all this as no sin, or even if it is, then they are already got license to do that because they are forgiven and they are already destined for Heaven after death.

As a manufacturer of any new invention or product knows best how that item to be used, so is with human being. We did not come into existence without a creator. Our creator is Allah, and as no mother leaves the child after giving birth, same way Allah should have given us a guidance, how to lead our life in his world. He knew and told us that we have a satan always with us and he will be telling all actions which are against His guidance. Satan says Luxurious  Life should be your aim, by hook or by crook.

To warn you that your life in this world is not for luxry but is a test for you and you will be successful in this test if you lived your life according to some guidelines which Allah pleases. For this purpose He continuously sent prophets for guidance to human and to some He also given books. The last of prophet is Mohammad (PBUH) and the last book is “Quran”. So if we live our life according to what Allah has guided us, we will be going to Heaven and if we disobeyed, then we will go to Hell. And believe that, logic says that we will be dealt according to our deeds. So if our deeds are according to His guidelines we will not be loser.

Islam, acknowledging human sex desires, therefore stress humans to satisfy their sex desires by getting married. Sexual relations without marriage are illegal not only in Islam but all religions and all humans prepared laws.

Now question comes how to satisfy your sex desires before getting married. Allah Says :

"Nor come nigh to adultery: for it is a shameful (deed) and an evil, opening the road (to other evils)." (Al-Isra' 17: 32)

According to the Qur'an, those who seek fulfillment outside the framework of marriage are deemed transgressors. Referring to this, Allah Almighty says: 

"Those who guard their sexual organs (5) except with their spouses or those whom their right hands possess, for (with regard to them) they are without blame. (6) But those who crave something beyond that are transgressors." (Al-Mu'minoon 23:5-7) 

Allah says: 
"Let those who find not the wherewithal for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allah gives them means out of His grace...."  (An-Noor 24:33)
 
The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, has advised those who cannot afford marriage to fast, saying:
"O youth, whoever of you is able to marry, let him marry, for it prevents forbidden stares or lapsing in adultery. And if he cannot marry, let him observe fasting, for it is a shield against evil." (Sahih Al-Bukhari, English Translation, Vol. 7, Book, 62, Hadith no. 4; Sahih Muslim, Book 008, Hadith no. 3231)

These are the objectives of sex mentioned by Allah in the verse that reads: "And among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell with them in tranquility, and He has put love and mercy between you. Indeed, in this are signs for those who reflect." (Ar-Rum 30: 21)  

In the light of all above, scholars maintain that illegal sexual relations is strictly forbidden.  When you have continuous sex relation, mean living just wife and husband, you are depriving women and children of their legal rights. It means that you are not legally responsible for their living, clothing, lodging, medical, inheritance and other sustenance liabilities. This is again the sin that you are enjoying all sex relations without any responsibility and therefore will be responsible on the day of judgment.

See what will happen to such persons in the day after.

Zina (adultery, unlawful sexual relationships) 

Our beloved prophet (PBUH) was on journey to heavens and in this journey he saw many punishments including of adultery. In the hadeeth of Samurah (may Allah be pleased with him) it says:

“So we went on, and came to something like a tannoor (a kind of oven, lined with clay, usually used for baking bread).  – I think the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said, in that oven there was much noise and voices. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) added:  - We  looked into it and saw naked men and  women. A flame of fire was reaching them from underneath, and when it reached them, they cried out loudly. I asked them, ‘Who are these?’ … The naked men and women whom you saw in a structure that resembled an oven are the adulterers and adulteresses.” 

The Qur'an emphasizes the spiritual objectives of marriage, making them the foundations of marital life. These objectives are realized in the peace of mind which comes through wholesome sexual experience with the spouse whom one loves, in the enlargement of the circle of love and affection between the two families united through marriage, and in the nurturing of affection and tenderness among the children under the loving care of their parents.

Punishment for fornication [or intercourse between unmarried persons] is flogging in public with 100 lashes. Punishment for adultery [or intercourse between the married persons] is stoning to death.

However, these punishments cannot be enforced unless proof is obtained either through freely given confession, [which, incidentally, may be retracted] or through the testimony of four men who testify under oath to have seen the offense being committed. Otherwise, punishment is left to Allah to inflict on the day of judgment, or in this life as He pleases. It is his prerogative to inflict punishment or to forgive the offender.

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2.   EVILS OF ZINA (FORNICATION)

Question:

What is Zina and its effects in Islam?

Answer: Praise be to Allah.

What is Zina?

There are many forms of Zina, but what we are addressing here is the highest form. This is adultry, fornication, having sexual intercourse without being married to the person.

 Allah (SWT)'s order in the Quran say, to stay away from Zina.

“Those who invoke not, with , any other god, nor slay such life as  has made sacred except for just cause, nor commit fornication; and any that does this (not only) meets punishment (68) (But) the Penalty on the Day of Judgment will be doubled to him, and he will dwell therein in ignominy,- (69) Unless he repents, believes, and works righteous deeds, for  will change the evil of such persons into good, and  is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful (Al-Furqan 25:68 - 70)

“And come not near to unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily it is a faahisha (a great sin) and an evil way” (Al-Isra’ 17:32)

Imaam al-Qurtubi (may  have mercy on him) said: The ulama said that the phrase “And come not near to unlawful sexual intercourse” is more eloquent than merely saying Do not commit zinaa, because the meaning is, Do not even come close to zinaa. This means not doing any deed that may get close to zinaa or lead to it, such as being alone with a member of the opposite sex, touching, looking, going to evil places, speaking in a haraam manner to a woman to whom one is not related, thinking about and planning immoral acts, and so on.

“And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts) and not to show off their adornment except only that which is apparent (like both eyes for necessity to see the way, or outer palms of hands or one eye or dress like veil, gloves, headcover, apron), and to draw their veils all over Juyoobihinna (i.e. their bodies, faces, necks and bosoms) .…” (An-Noor 24:31)

Hadith warning against not even coming close to Zina.

“Some persons from Banu Hisham entered the house of Asma' daughter of Umays when Abu Bakr also entered (and she was at that time his wife). He (Abu Bakr) saw it and disapproved of it and he made a mention of that to 's Messenger (saaws) and said: I did not see but good only (in my wife). Thereupon 's Messenger (saaws) said: Verily  has made her immune from all this. Then 's Messenger (saaws) stood on the pulpit and said: After this day no man should enter the house of another person in his absence, but only when he is accompanied by one person or two persons” (Sahih Al-Bukhari Book 25, Hadith # 5403)

Abd- ibn Masood (RAA) said: I asked the Messenger of  (SAW), Which sin is worst in the sight of ? He said, To make any rival to, when He has created you. I asked, Then what? He said, To kill your child for fear that he will eat with you. I asked, Then what? He said, To commit zinaa with the wife of your neighbour.

(Sahih Al-Bukhaari, Hadith #492 and In Shaih Muslim, Hadith #90).

Rasulullah (SAW) explained: “If one of you were to be stabbed in the head with a piece of iron it would be better for him than if he were to touch a woman whom it is not permissible for him to touch”

(Al-Tabaraani; see also Saheeh al-Jaami, 5045).

This refers to the punishment for touching, so how about worse deeds, such as embracing and kissing, and even worse kinds of illicit activity?

Rasulullah (SAW) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a woman the Devil makes a third." (Al-Tirmidhi 3118, Narrated Umar ibn al-Khattab , Tirmidhi transmitted it as authentic)

Note: So we should always try not to be alone with a woman who is not mahrum to us and not even go close to Zina.

Repentence from Zina:

Ibn Abbaas (RAA) said: “There is no major sin if one asks for forgiveness, and there is no minor sin if one persists in repeating it”

So if one wants to repent from having made the great sin of Zina he should remember these 4 things..

1)   Do not despair, for the Most Exalted and Glorified said in the Quran:

"Say: Oh my servants who have transgressed against their souls! Despair not of the mercy of , for  forgives all sins; for He is oft-forgiving, most merciful." (Az Zumr 39:53)

2) Let your repentance be truly from your heart, and stay away from all sources of temptations. Also, perform many good deeds, as good deeds abrogate the bad ones.

3) If you repent to, you are no longer described as a fornicator (zaani). Therefore, you can marry a chaste woman.

4) The believer has high hope and aspiration for the best from . He not only asks  for making his punishment easy in hellfire, but he also prays to  the Almighty to save him from Hell and award him with paradise for his repentance and good deeds.

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3. Sexual Relations of married couple

Question:

I am a married person and would want to know

(a) What are the do's and don’ts in making love (sexual intercourse)?

 (b) Is it not Haram for me and my wife to explore each other during sexual intercourse? (Is licking and sucking wife's vagina allowed in Islam? Like wise penis for the wife). Is it is haram, Mukrooh, or Halal in Islam for Husband and wife to kiss each other private Parts, we don’t find answer in Quran and Hadith.

 (c) Are we allowed sucking breast?

 (d) Are we allowed to see sexually oriented movies?

(e) Is anal penetration allowed?

(f) Is Aazal allowed in Islam? If not then How does family Planning work in Islam?

I am ashamed to ask the above questions, but as a real Muslim I want to know what is the view of my religion Islam on this matters.

Answer:

(a) Do's and don’ts in making love (sexual intercourse)?

Allah Almighty says in Holy Quran chapter number 2, Al-Baqarah, verse number 223:

"They ask thee concerning womens courses. Say: They are a hurt and a pollution: So keep away from women in their courses, and do not approach them until they are clean. But when they have purified themselves, ye may approach them as ordained for you by Allah. For Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly; and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean”. (222) Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will; but do some good act for your souls beforehand; and fear God. And know that ye are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give (these) good tidings to those who believe". (Al-Baqqarah 2:222 - 223)

Also it is reported that `Umar Ibn Al-Khattaab, may Allah be pleased with him, came one day to the Prophet and said, "O Messenger of Allah, I am ruined!" "What has ruined you?" asked the Prophet. He replied, "Last night I turned my wife over," meaning that he had had vaginal intercourse with her from the back. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, did not say anything to him until the verse 2:223 was revealed. Then he told him, "From the front or the back, but avoid the anus and intercourse during menstruation." (Reported by Ahmad and At-Tirmidhi.)

Based on this, all acts that aim at satisfying and pleasing the spouses are allowable so long as two things are avoided, that is anal sex and having sex with a wife while she is still in her menstruation or post partum bleeding.
Abu Daawood others record with a good chain that the Prophet (sal-Allah u `alayhe wa sallam) said:
"Accursed is the one who has anal intercourse with his wife".

Eminent Muslim scholar Sheikh Yusuf Al-Qaradawi:

"The Qur'an emphasizes the spiritual objectives of marriage, making them the foundations of marital life. These objectives are realized in the peace of mind which comes through wholesome sexual experience with the spouse whom one loves, but avoiding forbidden things. Husband and wife relations are basically meant for mutual comforts, tranquility and pleasure, increasing generation and discharging duties which are meant for both (to earn and raise children).

These are the objectives mentioned by Allah in the verse that reads: "And among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell with them in tranquility, and He has put love and mercy between you. Indeed, in this are signs for those who reflect." (Ar-Rum 30: 21)

At the same time, the Qur'an does not neglect the sensual aspect and the physical relationship between husband and wife. It guides human beings to the best path, fulfilling the demands of the sexual urge while avoiding harmful or deviant practices.

Allah, Exalted and Glorified be He, says:

"And who guard their modesty, (5) Except before their mates or those whom their right hands possess, for they surely are not blameable, (6) but Who so craveth beyond that, such are transgressors." (Al-Mu'minun 23: 5-7)

(b) Whether licking and sucking sexual parts (below navel) are Haram, Mukrooh, or Halal in Islam?

The mouth and tongue is given for eating (halal things) and talking (good words) and remembering Allah. Misusing its use will not be loved by Allah. Any means leading to evil or harm has to be blocked (eating or saying). In this regard, the couple should avoid these acts as such practices has been proven medically to be unhealthy (such as cancer and other diseases).

Additionally:

1.   Whatever emits from women and men private parts is Najjis. (Impure)

2.   Najjis fluid, if touches clothes, it is required that clothes should be cleaned before praying.

3.   Najjis is forbidden to be sucked, chewed, eaten or drank.

In light of above, my point of view is that although no clear hadith is mentioned in this respect, but taking the example of Khalifa Umer (RTU), how much he was afraid of Allah, by only making intercourse with his wife in doggy like position.

Do you think any of sahabas be doing all that which some of our nowadays people want to do it, and get it justified one way or the other. If sahabas  had been doing what has been questioned, surely some of sahabas may have asked about it, as Umer (RTU) asked about only the position, and prophet may have cleared it.

The purpose of mouth and tongue is for eating halal things, reciting Quran, praying and remembering Allah and talking (good words). Misusing both of these in a wrong way, sexually or by words, I think will be questioned on the day of judgement. Bad use of tongue (saying anything not pleasing Allah) and eating, drinking, sucking, licking forbidden things (such as haram food, or fluids, eg, liquor, sperm, urine, precum) will have to be answered also.

The Prophet (PBUH) said "If immorality and lewdness spread in a nation, Allah will afflict them with diseases that their forefathers were not afflicted with", is truly confirming this fact.

Allah even does not like that you spend your money as extravagant, (and will be questioned) so how he will not question for misuse of tongue and mouth. So using mouth for najjis and forbidding things will not be loved by Allah. Anything leading to bad and non ethical practices or hurting medically has to be avoided (sucking, eating or speaking) leading to Allah’s displeasure.

(c) Are we allowed sucking breast?

Breastfeeding to have the effect of making a mahram relationship, two conditions must be met, and this is all for a child 2 years and below.

(1)  The number of breastfeeding sessions should be five or more, and the evidence for that is the hadith narrated by Muslim from `A’ishah who said: “One of the (rulings) that was revealed in the Qur’an was that ten known sessions of breastfeeding make the child a mahram, then that was abrogated and replaced with five.”

 

(2)  This should happen within the first two years of the child’s life. If these two conditions are met, then the rulings concerning breastfeeding will apply, i.e. the child will be considered a relative and marriage will be forbidden, etc.

Hence there is no harm for a husband in sucking his wife's breasts because it is for the married couple to enjoy themselves with each other in other than that which Allah has prohibited.

 Also there is no limit for the number of sucking between husband and wife.

(d) Seeing sexually oriented movies?

Pornographic pictures and movies are haram (prohibited). Muslims should not watch, sell or make such movies. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) is reported to have said: 'The eyes commit adultery, the tongue commits adultery, the hands commit adultery, the feet commit adultery and then the private parts confirm it or deny it.' (Reported by Ahmad Ibn Hanbal)

(e) Anal penetration?

Not allowed at all.

(f) Aazal Interruption?

Azl (coitus interrupts) is permissible in Islam as long as it is with the mutual consent of the spouses.

(e) Family Planning?

Family planning is also permissible in Islam, that is using any temporary method of delaying the pregnancy. Permanent sterilization is not allowed unless there are genuine health reasons.

And Allah knows the best.

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3. Marriage: Sexual Relations

Question:

I am a married person and would want to know

(a) What are the do's and don’ts in making love (sexual intercourse)?

(b) Is it not Haram for me and my wife to explore each other during sexual intercourse? (Is licking and sucking wife's vagina allowed in Islam? Like wise penis for the wife)

(c) Are we allowed to see sexually oriented movies?

(d) Is anal penetration allowed?

(e) Is Aazal allowed in Islam? If not then How does family Planning work in Islam?

I am ashamed to ask the above questions, but as a real Muslim I want to know what is the view of my religion Islam on this matters.

Answer:
 
Allah Almighty says in Holy Quran chapter number 2, Al-Baqarah, verse number 223: 

"They ask thee concerning womens courses. Say: They are a hurt and a pollution: So keep away from women in their courses, and do not approach them until they are clean. But when they have purified themselves, ye may approach them as ordained for you by Allah. For Allah loves those who turn to Him constantly; and He loves those who keep themselves pure and clean”. (222) Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will; but do some good act for your souls beforehand; and fear God. And know that ye are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give (these) good tidings to those who believe". (Al-Baqqarah 2:222 - 223) 

Also it is reported that `Umar Ibn Al-Khattaab, may Allah be pleased with him, came one day to the Prophet and said, "O Messenger of Allah, I am ruined!" "What has ruined you?" asked the Prophet. He replied, "Last night I turned my wife over," meaning that he had had vaginal intercourse with her from the back. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, did not say anything to him until the verse 2:223 was revealed. Then he told him, "From the front or the back, but avoid the anus and intercourse during menstruation." (Reported by Ahmad and At-Tirmidhi.)  

Based on this, all acts that aim at satisfying and pleasing the spouses are allowable so long as two things are avoided, that is anal sex and having sex with a wife while she is still in her menstruation or post partum bleeding.  
Abu Daawood others record with a good chain that the Prophet (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam) said:  
"Accursed is the one who has anal intercourse with his wife". 
 
Eminent Muslim scholar Sheikh Yusuf Al-Qaradawi:  

"The Qur'an emphasizes the spiritual objectives of marriage, making them the foundations of marital life. These objectives are realized in the peace of mind which comes through wholesome sexual experience with the spouse whom one loves, in the enlargement of the circle of love and affection between the two families united through marriage, and in the nurturing of affection and tenderness among the children under the loving care of their parents.

These are the objectives mentioned by Allah in the verse that reads: "And among His signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell with them in tranquility, and He has put love and mercy between you. Indeed, in this are signs for those who reflect." (Ar-Rum 30: 21)

At the same time, the Qur'an does not neglect the sensual aspect and the physical relationship between husband and wife. It guides human beings to the best path, fulfilling the demands of the sexual urge while avoiding harmful or deviant practices.  
 
Allah, Exalted and Glorified be He, says:

"And who guard their modesty, (5) Except before their mates or those whom their right hands possess, for they surely are not blameable, (6) but Who so craveth beyond that, such are transgressors." (Al-Mu'minun 23: 5-7)

In the light of this, scholars maintain that the husband is allowed to enjoy his wife through any means of enjoyment except anal sex, for that is strictly forbidden.  

Medically speaking, these actions have been proven to be leading to some disease such as cancer and other diseases. The mouth and tongue is given for eating (halal things) and talking (good words) and remembering Allah. Misusing its use will not be loved by Allah. The legal maxim states that any means leading to evil or harm has to be blocked (eating or saying). In this regard, the couple should avoid these, acts as such practices has been proven medically to be unhealthy.

Pornographic pictures and movies are haram (prohibited). Muslims should not watch, sell or make such movies. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) is reported to have said: 'The eyes commit adultery, the tongue commits adultery, the hands commit adultery, the feet commit adultery and then the private parts confirm it or deny it.' (Reported by Ahmad Ibn Hanbal)

Azl (coitus interrupts) is permissible in Islam as long as it is with the mutual consent of the spouses.

Family planning is also permissible in Islam, that is using any temporary method of delaying the pregnancy. Permanent sterilization is not allowed unless there are genuine health reasons.

 

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4. Masturbation

Question:

I am a 21 year old student. Unfortunately, I have a filthy habit of masturbating almost everyday since the age of sixteen. I have tried dhikr but it still doesn’t work. I cannot marry because I have no resources and I cannot fast because I am very skinny. Kindly guide me towards a successful and practical solution.

Answer:

Let's first give you the Islamic ruling about this matter and afterwards, suggest some solutions. The general Islamic ruling regarding masturbation is that it is Haram because it is a concerted effort to release sexual needs in a way different from that which Allah Almighty has recommended, i.e. through marriage. Besides, masturbation especially when it becomes an obsession and very frequent, has physical side effects which is so much documented that we won't discuss it here.

However, Muslim scholars have reduced the prohibition of masturbation for those who are described as 'Shabik' - persons whose sexual arousal is very high and they fear they might commit adultery, if such need is not reduced by masturbation. In that case, the ‘Shabik’ may masturbate only if that helps him to overcome such an urge, and also only as needed under the following conditions:

1-    That he is truly unable to get married,

2-    To masturbate only when he is sexually aroused,

3-    Not to be obsessed or to do it frequently,

4-    That he doesn't excite himself through masturbation, i.e., if he is not excited, he shouldn't masturbate and excite himself, and

5-    He should be sure that masturbation will actually help him out in decreasing his strong sexual needs.

It is advised that, the first thing you should do, is to turn to Allah with all sincerity and ask for help to get out of this habit. Then, try your best to decrease it.  Also bear in mind that by continuously doing this practice by hand, you either already may have done it or may be under the stages of disformation of your tool. It may have become twisted, shortened, not uniform and other effects like that. This will then greatly effect your status of sexual relation with your life partner, and as a result she may not get satisfied with your tool. And God forbid, then she may look illegal sexual relations with other guy or ask you divorce.

We would advise following guidelines for keeping yourself away from this habit. 

1)  Observing fasting, because it bolsters one's faith, preserves chastity, and protects one from evil thoughts.  

2)  Observing moderation in eating and drinking in order to avoid stimulating your desire. 

3)  Keeping away from anything that is sexually stimulating, such as pornographic pictures, erotic films and love songs. 

4)  Choosing good and righteous friends. 

5)  Keeping yourself busy in worship and spiritual acts. 

6)  Interacting with activities of the society in such a way that it keeps you away from thinking about sex. 

7)  Avoiding gatherings and places that bring men and women physically close to each other. 

8)  Try to read and explore as much Islamic material as possible. This will increase your knowledge in Islam for yourself and others and you may becaome a “Da’ie”  to Islam.


However, if you find that you cannot relieve yourself except through masturbation, and you fear you may lapse in adultery if you do not masturbate, then the juristic rule which states that the lesser evil is to be suffered in order to fend off the major one applies to you, as masturbation is deemed to be the lesser of two evils in this case. But, we would like to stress that this may be done only in the case of dire necessity, when all solutions prove to be of no avail.

So try to get yourself busy or change the conditions, the timing, and the place where you usually get involved in it. Also, if you can save some money, just enough to see a doctor for few consultations, seek the help of Sex therapists, or doctors who are specialized in such disorders. Remember, you are not the first or only one who faces this problem. Effective techniques have been developed to control it. Your condition appears to warrant urgent medical treatment and we urge you to seek medical help right away.

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5. Sexual TASTE FROM BEHIND

Question:

Where does it say in the Quran, to pleasure a women from behind is haram? Thank you.

Answer:

Allah Almighty says in Holy Quran chapter number 2 Al-Baqarah, verse number 223: 

"-Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will; but do some good act for your souls beforehand; and fear God. And know that ye are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give (these) good tidings to those who believe."  (Al-Baqarah 2 : 223)

Also it is reported that `Umar Ibn Al-Khattaab, may Allah be pleased with him, came one day to the Prophet and said, "O Messenger of Allah, I am ruined!" "What has ruined you?" asked the Prophet. He replied, "Last night I turned my wife over," meaning that he had had vaginal intercourse with her from the back. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, did not say anything to him until the verse 2:223 was revealed. Then he told him, "From the front or the back, but avoid the anus and intercourse during menstruation." (Reported by Ahmad and At-Tirmidhi.)  
 
Based on this, all acts that aim at satisfying and pleasing the spouses are allowable so long as two things are avoided,

1.  Anal sex.

2. Having sex with a wife while she is still in her menstruation. 
 
In the light of this, scholars maintain that the husband is allowed to enjoy his wife through any means of enjoyment except anal sex, for that is strictly forbidden.

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6. Relationship: Boy or Girl Friend

Question:

Is it a sin in Islam to have a boyfriend of the same religion, even if there is NO sexual contact? Is it the same with non Muslims?

Answer:

What is prohibited in Islam is the physical contact and the staying alone with the opposite sex (other than a person’s parents, uncles, aunts, children, sisters, brothers, grandparents, etc.). Also, Islam prohibits a boyfriend or girlfriend relationship that is not built around the ultimate goal of marriage. Therefore, if someone is interested in another person and builds feelings towards him/her, then, he/she should be honest and express the wish to build a family when the means are available.

At this stage, he/she may get to know each others more within the presence of family members and friends. Otherwise, no such relationships are allowed. The same applies for a Muslim man wanting to marry a non-Muslim woman. Please note that a Muslim woman cannot get married with a non-Muslim man, and even for a Muslim man, it is not encouraged to marry a non-Muslim woman, it is only allowed.

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7. Homosex

Question:

It has come to my attention that my feelings towards other men have increased in a sexual matter yet no attraction at all for women. It has been termed SSA (same sex attraction) and I want to know what you would suggest to combat it? I cannot go to my parents, friends or even my mosque because of the shame and their expected responses. If you could suggest some materials to look at as well. Inshallah I will be free of SSA soon enough.

Answer:

First of all, Muslim scholars agree — based on what has been revealed in the Qur’an and what has been authenticated in the Prophetic Sunnah — that homosexual behavior (gayness and lesbianism) is prohibited because it is an assault on the humanity of a person, destruction of the family, and a clash with the aims of the Lawgiver, one of which is the establishment of sexual instincts between males and females so as to encourage the institution of marriage.  

In his response to the question in point, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, states:  

Homosexuality is considered one of the most abominable sins in Islam; it is so enormous in intensity and gravity that Allah tells us in the Qur’an that because of it, an entire nation was destroyed by Allah in a most horrible way. We must know that the stories narrated in the Qur’an are not meant for chanting or entertainment; rather they are meant to teach us valuable lessons for our benefit.

Allah says:

“Truly in their stories is a lesson for people of understanding, for this (Book) is not a forged tale, but is a confirmation of the revelations of that preceded it, a detailed explanation of all things, a guidance and a mercy to people who believe.” (Yusuf 12: 111)  
 
 So you should ask yourself whether you wish to belong to the category of those who have been condemned to eternal perdition by Allah. The choice is yours alone; you cannot say, “I don’t have any choice.”  
 
The scholar has given a few tips to help such a person in his struggle:

 

1.    Let him convince himself that the pleasure that he derives from such an abominable behavior is in reality nothing but pain and suffering in the long term. So instead of associating this behavior with pleasure, let him learn to associate and link it with pain; so every time he is tempted to do it, let him picture the pain and suffering of hell fire. By repeatedly going through this exercise, he will eventually come to abhor and shun this behavior altogether.

 

 2.   Let him continuously read, reflect and meditate on the verses of the Qur’an that deal with the punishment meted to the nation who practiced this abomination; let him also read the verses depicting hell fire. (For instance: Qur’an: 7: 80-84; 11: 77-83; 40: 47-50, etc.)

 

 3.   Let him ask himself whether he wishes to belong to the group of the wicked sinners condemned by Allah or join the company of the prophets, saintly ones, the martyrs and the righteous who are blessed by Allah. The choice is his and his alone.  

 

 4.   Let him immediately cut off all relations with people who lead such a life-style; let him, if there is need, relocate himself to another city where he will be able to erase his past and form friendships with those who are righteous and engaged in good works and thus occupy himself in such works with them.  

 

5.    Let him meditate on the ephemeral and transient nature of this world. The pleasures of this world are fleeting while the pleasure and pain of Hereafter are ever lasting.  

 

6.    Let him make dhikr and du`a’ his constant companion. By seeking Allah’s help to fight this behavior, he can surely overcome and break free of this abomination. Allah has promised to come to the help of those who strive in His way:

 

“As for those who strive for Our sake, We will guide them unto Our ways; verily, Allah is with those who behave with excellence.” (Al-`Ankabut 29: 69)  

 

7.    Last but not least, once he has repented and changed himself into a better person, he should get married and seek a lawful Islamic relationship, which will be approved by Allah as well as rewarded by Him. May Allah help us all to hate disbelief and sins in all forms, and may He make dear to our hearts faith and righteous actions. And Allah Almighty knows best.  

Conclusion :

Based on our knowledge regarding same sex attractions, we can say that such attraction is not something inherent or natural one, and those who think like that it is, then it is just generating an excuse for their behaviour. The first human Adam and Hawaa were neither diabetic nor homosexual.

God has created everything in pairs each endowed with physical and psychological characteristics to complement and complete one another. The Quran (An-Nissa 4:1) indicates that human beings have been created from one living entity (nafs), which represents the origin of both the male and the female. The human species though has included male and female since its existence. The "mating" or "spousing" of male and female sexes is original in human nature and out of this instinctive relationship the human race develops, continues and spreads....."

"We, as Muslims, have benefit and blessings of divine guidance and wisdom. The Quran reminds us that Allah (SWT) will change the condition of the people only if they themselves put forth the effort (Ar-Raad13:11). If the homosexuals can promote their wrong values with vigor and succeed, we have a duty and a responsibility not only to make an effort to arrest this trend, but also to invest our time, energy, and resources to promote the divine values with as much zeal."

Remember on Day of Judgment you deeds will be open to you to examine as Allah says :

“And the Book (of Deeds) will be placed (before you); and thou wilt see the sinful (persons) in great terror because of what is (recorded) therein; they will say, "Ah! woe to us! what a Book is this! It leaves out nothing small or great, but takes account thereof!" They will find all that they did, placed before them: and your Lord does not deal unjustly with anyone”. (Al-Kahf 18:49)

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8. BROWSING PORN WEBSITES

Question:                                                                                                  

Dear Sheikh! Our young people (may Allah grant them guidance) sometimes abuse the Internet by browsing the porn websites wasting time and effort and even disobeying Allah. What is your advice to those teenagers and others?

Answer :

In the first place, it is to be noted that logging in and browsing pornographic sites is forbidden because a Muslim is always commanded to lower his/her gaze, let alone give a loose rein to his/her hungry eye to look at the private parts of others. More importantly, such acts cause psychological and social injury. Besides, many people in general, and teenagers in particular, waste their lives and times doing things which Allah forbade them to do. A Muslim is always commanded to spend his time in useful things, cherish what benefits him in the present, plan for his coming days, and always make the reward of the Hereafter his/her top priority.

The prominent Muslim scholar Sheikh Ahmad ibn Hamad Al-Khalili, the Grand Mufti of Oman states the following:

First of all, my advice to those young people is that they should fear Almighty Allah regarding their life and youthfulness. They are to bear in mind that they will be reckoned for these two and will be questioned what they have done with them. The Hadith says: "The feet of a son of Adam will not be removed (meaning he will be standing for reckoning until he is asked about the following five), unless he is questioned about five things: his life and how he has spent it, his youth time and how he managed it, his wealth from where and how it has been spent, and his actions how close or far they are from his knowledge."

Man will be questioned about his life since it is the greatest Divine gift. Those, however, waste their life browsing these porn sites and thus spoil the greatest Divine blessing given to them, namely life. Man is granted this life not to spend it in quest for lusts and desires of the flesh, but to utilize it for the life of eternity, the Hereafter. In that eternal life everything is blessed, no poverty is there, no sickness, no senility. That eternal life is only for those who lead this life in straightness, uprightness and conformity with the laws of Allah.

Let those young people, then, fear Allah regarding their youth. Youth is not a time for play or whimsical actions; rather, it is the time for fruitful work and action, ambition and perfection.

The youth have always been the indicator of progress or decline of every nation or people. The more they stick to the dictates of virtue and uprightness, the greater their nation will become. The more they fall in the den of vice, the lower their nation will go. Thus, we have the necessity for right and moral upbringing of the youth.

I advise all those young people to consider the value of their lives and stop wasting it in trivialities. They should bear in mind that death may overtake them all of a sudden. All people are like prisoners in a cell waiting for their execution. No one knows when, but they should prepare themselves for it. Almighty Allah says: "Every soul shall taste death…." (Aale `Imran 3:185)

The following working steps to fight porn addiction are for all, no matter their age:

Step One: Admit that you can't give up.

Admit that you are unable to get a grip on your consumption of pornography. It is uncontrollable. Every time you turn on the internet, go to the video store, turn on the television, you cannot say NO to yourself. You cannot NOT surf porn sites, or stop watching. You are no longer in control of your life.

Step Two: Admit that only Allah can get you out of this.

You know, after trying through so many ways to control your addiction and subsequently failing, that only Allah can help you out of this. You may have known it before, but you are convinced of it now without a shadow of a doubt.

Step Three: Your life and death are all in Allah's control.

Decide to put your complete trust in Allah, Who is in control of all aspects of your life and your death, and to bring this problem to Him and seek His help first and foremost.

Step Four: Do a self-analysis.

Do an honest, sincere, but often painful self-evaluation of your good points, bad points, and analyze your addiction, trying to understand how you reached this point.

Step Five: Make a specific repentance to Allah.

Admit to Allah and to yourself and to another trusted Muslim (if possible) exactly where you went wrong. Do not make a general request for repentance. Specifically list your mistakes and, in particular, your addiction to pornography.

Step Six: Be open and ready to receive Allah's help to change.

You know your sincere repentance must be followed by action. Be ready to do what is necessary to change, no matter how difficult or painful, even if it means not even watching television for the news or never surfing the Internet alone.

Step Seven: Try for the removal of thoughts.

Try to do some household work, read any religious or any book, go for a walk, shopping or to a friend. In short try to be busy and divert your attention. Even  any obligatory or nafl prayer.

Step Eight: Ask for the removal of faults.

Ask Allah with sincerity, humility and regret to help you never repeat this action (looking at pornography) again and to help you avoid repeating sins committed in the past.

Step Nine: Make lots of du`a’ (supplication) and try to increase your taqwa (fear of Allah).

Every night do an honest self-evaluation of your behavior and be ready to admit your mistakes and thank Allah for the good you did that day. Continue to pray five times a day, seeking closeness to Allah. Seek to be consciousness of Him wherever you are. Increase your reliance on Him to help you with this addiction to pornography and with all other matters in your life.

Step Ten: Preach and practice.

Don’t just "move on" after Allah has blessed you to get out of this addiction. Help others you know with this problem through regular contact and sincere advice, respecting the etiquette of enjoining the good and forbidding the evil. By the grace of Allah, helping others will help you maintain control over your addiction, and you will help another Muslim or another human being to get out of this destruction and misery.

Excerpted, with slight modifications, from: www.islamonline.net

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9. SEX EDUCATION

Question:                                                                                                                   

Are elderly women allowed (IN ISLAM) to teach & make their children or other children aware of SEX? Is SEX education not important in Islamic point of view so that girls (who are modest) can know about it! & be frank to their spouses?

Answer:                                                                                                                      

As regards your question, we'd like to state that Islam is aware of educating man/woman on the proper way of satisfying his/her desire in the light of its noble teachings. In seeking this knowledge, shyness does not stand as a barrier in this case, but such knowledge must be imparted in a modest and dignified manner. Almighty Allah says, “…. Say (unto them, O Muhammad): Are those who know equal with those who know not? But only men of understanding will pay heed.”  (Az-Zumar 39:9)

Sex education in Islam is a form of imparting religious knowledge to young men or women, for them to be aware of what is required of them in matters of deen and dunya. It is not allowed under any pretext to use such sex education to sanction adultery or moral deviation by any means such as naked photos or direct description of sexual practices.

With this in mind, we can say that it is preferable to begin the process of sex education at the age of puberty, for carrying it before this age is not good.

Those who think that sex education is not allowed in Islam are completely wrong. The books of Islamic jurisprudence expose several topics promoting sexual awareness, including discussion of menstruation, childbirth bleeding, pregnancy, delivery, rules of sexual intercourse, rules of marriage, taking a bath (Ghusl) after sexual intercourse, rules related to ejaculation of sperm during intercourse and intercourse without ejaculation, and rules related to the punishment for committing adultery or fornication. All these rulings are dealt with in the books of Islamic jurisprudence in a moral and scientific manner. Sex education can also be taught in a way that informs young people about sexuality in scientific and moral terms.

Having stated the above, it becomes clear Muslim parents are allowed to teach their kids sex education preferably when they reach maturity. What is important is to do so in a proper way while preserving shyness and staying away from improper and prohibited means.

Excerpted, with slight modifications, from: www.islamonline.net

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10. NEW DISEASES SUCH AS SARS AND AIDS

Question :                                                                                                  

I feel that the emergence of the new diseases such as SARS and AIDS are signs of Allah's wrath and punishment for people who violated the rules of Allah. I recall a hadith in which the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "If immorality spread in a nation, Allah will afflict them with diseases that their forefathers were not afflicted with." Please comment on this issue and explain the Islamic remedy for such disasters.

Answer :

For the faithful, there are signs everyday in their lives that would reveal the divine wisdom and the fact that Allah is in charge of the affairs of the universe and human beings. Diseases such as SARS and AIDS may very well belong to such a category of signs of divine wrath due to sins of humans or their mismanagement of affairs or tampering with the planet.

The Prophet's statement "If immorality and lewdness spread in a nation, Allah will afflict them with diseases that their forefathers were not afflicted with", is truly confirming this fact. However, this does not mean that we should not fight these diseases by taking preventive measures as well as resorting to medication and treatment. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) said: "O servants of Allah, seek treatment, for Allah has appointed cures for all diseases."

Allah Almighty knows best.

Excerpted, with slight modifications, from: www.islamonline.net

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11. INTERCOURSE WITH WIFE IN MENSTRUATION

Question:

What is the wisdom behind the prohibition on having intercourse with one's wife when she is menstruating or bleeding following childbirth? If the reason for the prohibition is the blood because it is impure, then is it permissible to have intercourse using a barrier like a condom?

Answer: Praise be to Allah.  

Allah has forbidden men to have intercourse with their wives in the vagina at the time of menstruation. 

The Quran clearly stated the reason for this prohibition, which is that menstruation is adha (a harmful thing). Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“They ask you concerning menstruation. Say: that is an Adha (a harmful thing for a husband to have a sexual intercourse with his wife while she is having her menses), therefore, keep away from women during menses ….”  (Al-Baqarah 2:222) 

Scientific studies in this field have disclosed to us some of the harm that is referred to in this verse, but they have not managed to describe all the harms that are referred to in the Quranic text. 

Dr. Muhiy al-Deen al-‘Alabi said: “It is essential to refrain from having intercourse with a menstruating women because doing so leads to an increase in the flow of menstrual blood, because the veins of the uterus are congested and prone to rupture, and get damaged easily; and the wall of the vagina is also susceptible to injury, so the likelihood of inflammation is increased, which leads to inflammation in the uterus and in the man’s penis, because of the irritation that occurs during intercourse. Having intercourse with a menstruating woman may also be off-putting to both the man and his wife, because of the presence and smell of blood, which may make the man impotent (i.e. uninterested in sex). 

Dr. Muhammad al-Baar said, speaking of the harm that may be caused to the menstruating woman: The lining of the uterus is shed during menstruation, and the uterus is scarred as a result, just like when the skin is flayed. So it is vulnerable to bacteria and the introduction of the bacteria that are to be found at the tip of the penis poses a great danger to the uterus.  

Hence the penetration of the penis into the vagina at the time of menstruation is no more than the introduction of germs at a time when the body is unable to fight them. 

Dr. Al-Baar thinks that the harm is not limited to what he describes of the introduction of germs into the uterus and vagina which is difficult to treat, rather it also extends to other things, namely: 

1. The spread of infection to the fallopian tubes, which may then become blocked, which in turn may lead to infertility or entopic pregnancy, which is the most dangerous kind of pregnancy.

2. The spread of infection to the urethra, bladder and kidneys; diseases of the urinary tract are usually serious and chronic.

3. Increase of germs in the menstrual blood, especially gonorrhea germs. 

The menstruating woman is also in a physical and psychological state that is not conducive to intercourse, so if it takes place it will harm her a great deal and cause her pains during her period, as Dr. Al-Baar said: 

1) Menstruation is accompanied by pains, the severity of which varies from one woman to another. Most women experience pains in the back and lower abdomen. For some women the pain is unbearable and has to be treated with medication and painkillers.

2)  Many women suffer depression and stress during their period, especially at the beginning, and their mental and intellectual state is at the lowest level during menstruation.

3) Some women suffer migraines just before their period starts, and the pain is severe and causes visual disturbances and vomiting.

4) Women’s sexual desire decreases, and many women have no interest at all in sex during their periods. The entire reproductive system is in a state that is akin to sickness, so intercourse at this time is not natural and serves no purpose, rather it can cause a great deal of harm.

5) A woman’s temperature drops during menstruation, as does her pulse and blood pressure, which makes her feel dizzy, exhausted and lethargic. 

Dr. Al-Baar also mentions that the harm is not only caused to the woman by having intercourse with her, rather the man is also affected by this action, which may cause infection in his reproductive system which may lead to sterility as a result. The severe pains suffered as a result of this infection may be even worse than the sterility it causes.  

And there are many other harmful effects, some of which have not yet been discovered, but Allah has referred to them when He said (interpretation of the meaning): 

“… Say: that is an Adha (a harmful thing for a husband to have a sexual intercourse with his wife while she is having her menses), therefore, keep away from women during menses and go not unto them till they are purified (from menses and have taken a bath ….)” (Al-Baqarah 2:222) 

Allah has described it as adha, a harmful thing both for the wife and for  the husband, and other harmful effects about which Allah knows best. 

Thus it becomes clear that the prohibition on intercourse at the time of menstruation is not just because of the blood, rather it is for many reasons as stated above. 

The Muslim must also obey the command of Allah, for He is the Creator and He knows best what is good for His slaves and what is harmful to them. He is the One Who says keep away from women during menses”, so even if the reason behind this is not clear, we must still submit to the command of Allah Who has commanded that a man should not have intercourse with his wife during this time.

And Allah knows the best.

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12. RULING ON OPERATIONS TO REPAIR THE HYMEN

Question :

For some reason a woman tore her hymen. Is it permissible for her to have it repaired surgically?

Answer :  Praise be to Allah .  

This matter is one of the issues that have been raised in the modern age, so we should look at each of the two scholarly opinions on the matter and indicate which one we believe to be more correct.

 The first opinion is that it is not permissible to repair the hymen at all.

 The second opinion is more detailed:

 1.  If the rupture of the hymen was caused by an accident or by an action that is not considered in sharee’ah to be a sin, and was not caused by intercourse within the bounds of legal marriage, then we look at the following issue:

If it is deemed most likely that the girl will suffer hardship and unfair accusations because of the customs and traditions of her society, then doing this operation is obligatory. If that is not the case, then it is still better to do the operation.

2.  If the rupture was caused by intercourse within the bounds of legal marriage, as in the case of woman who has been divorced, or by zinaa (illicit sexual activity i.e., outside the bounds of marriage) in a case that is well known among the people, then it is haraam to do this operation.

3.  If the rupture was caused by zinaa in a case that is not well known among the people, then the doctor has the choice of either repairing it or not repairing it, although it is better to repair it.

The points on which the scholars differ

The differences between these two opinions are confined to the first and third cases outlined above. With regard to the second case, they are agreed that this operation is haraam in such situations.

 Evidence (daleel)

The evidence for the first view (that it is completely haraam).

Firstly: Repairing the hymen could lead to mixing of lineages, as a woman could become pregnant from a previous liaison, then she gets married after having her hymen repaired, which then leads to the pregnancy being attributed to her husband, thus mixing halaal with haraam.

Secondly: Repairing the hymen involves looking at that part of the ‘awrah which is to hidden most.

Thirdly: Repairing the hymen makes it easy for young women to commit the sin of zinaa, because they know that they can have the hymen repaired afterwards. 

Fourthly: there is the matter of good and bad consequences, or pros and cons. If it is possible to achieve the good consequences whilst warding off the bad consequences, then we should do that. If the bad consequences outweigh the good consequences, we should ward off the bad consequences and not worry about the good consequences, as the fuqahaa’ of Islam have stated. 

If we apply this principle and look at the evil consequences that result from repairing the hymen, we will understand that it is not permissible to do this operation because of the enormity of the evil consequences that result from it. 

Fifthly: One of the principles of Islamic sharee’ah is that something harmful cannot be removed by something else that is also harmful. One of the implications of this principle is that “it is not permissible for a man to prevent his land from being flooded by diverting the flood waters onto someone else’s land.” By the same token, it is not permissible for a girl and her mother to remove harm from themselves by having the hymen repaired and thus causing harm to the husband. 

Sixthly: The basic idea of repairing the hymen is not permissible according to sharee’ah because it is a kind of deceit, and deceit is forbidden in Islam. 

Seventhly: Repairing the hymen paves the way for girls and their families to tell lies about the real reason why the hymen was ruptured, and lying is also forbidden in Islam. 

Eighthly: Repairing the hymen paves the way for doctors to resort to performing abortions for the purposes of concealing sin. 

Evidence for the second opinion: 

Firstly: The texts indicate that it is permissible and is encouraged to conceal sins, and repairing the hymen helps to achieve that in cases where this operation is permissible. 

Secondly: If a woman who is innocent of any immoral action is allowed to have this operation so as to leave no room for suspicion, this will ward off injustice for her and will achieve the aim prescribed by sharee’ah of thinking well of believing men and women. 

Thirdly: Repairing the hymen has to ward off harm . If a woman was left without having this operation done, and her husband were to notice that, it would cause trouble for her and her family, and if the matter became well known among people, the family may never be able to find marriage partners for their daughters. So they are permitted to ward off harm because they are innocent in this case.

Fourthly: The fact that a Muslim doctor may perform this operation in order to conceal the illusionary evidence of a general educational impact on society, especially where the psychology of young women is concerned. 

Fifthly: The objection of deception does not exist in cases where we have determined that it is permissible to repair the hymen. 

Which view is more correct? 

The view which is more correct  - and Allah knows best – is that which states that it is not permissible to repair the hymen at all. This is for the following reasons: 

Firstly: Because the reports quoted as evidence by those who have this view are saheeh. 

Secondly: With regard to the evidence quoted by those who favour the second view, they may be dealt with as follows: 

The response to the first :

The concealing that is required in Islam is that described in the texts as a concealing of sin, but this aim is not achieved by repairing the hymen. Basically it is haraam because it involves uncovering the ‘awrah and opens the door to evil. 

The response to the second :

Preventing the husband from thinking badly of the woman may be achieved by informing him of the situation before marriage. If he accepts it, this is fine, otherwise Allah will compensate her with someone better. 

The response to the third :

The evil consequence mentioned cannot be avoided entirely by doing this operation, because there is the possibility that the husband may find out about it, even if that happens by way of someone else telling him. He should be told about it, and if he accepts then the evil consequence is not longer an issue, as is also the case if he decides not to go ahead with the marriage. 

The response to the fourth :

Even though there are some positive aspects to this concealment, there are also negative consequences, such as making it easy for women to commit zinaa. Warding off evil consequences takes priority over gaining benefits. 

The response to the fifth :

We do not accept that there is no deception involved, because this hymen is renewed, it is not the original hymen. If we accept that there is no deception of the husband involved in cases where the hymen was broken as a result of jumping and so on, we cannot be sure that there is no deception in cases where it was broken as a result of an attack on the woman. 

Thirdly: Blocking the routes that could lead to harm, as mentioned by those who favour the first opinion, is a very important matter, especially in cases that have to do with the violation of the sanctity of private parts and the evil that can undoubtedly result from permitting the repair of hymens. 

Thirdly: The basic principle in Islam is that it is haraam to uncover, touch or look at that which is ‘awrah. The excuses mentioned by those who favour the second opinion are not strong enough to let operations to repair the hymen be exempted from this general rule. So we have to adhere to this ruling, and say that it is haraam to do operations to repair the hymen. 

Fourthly : The evil consequence of false accusations being made can be dealt with by obtaining a medical certificate after the event to prove the woman’s innocence. This is the best way, and by doing this there is no longer any need to do an operation to repair the hymen.

 For all of these reasons, it is not permissible for a doctor or a woman to do this kind of surgery, and Allah knows best.

(See Ahkaam al-Jaraahah al-Tibbiyyah wa’l-Athaar al-Mutarattibah ‘alayhaa  by Dr. Muhammad ibn Muhammad al-Mukhtaar al-Shanqeeti, p. 403)

Some contemporary scholars have issued fatwas stating that surgery to repair the hymen is permissible in the case of rape victims and those who have repented (from zinaa), but it not permissible in the case of women who have not repented, because this is helping her to continue committing that sin. By the same token, a woman who has previously had intercourse is not permitted to do this operation because this is helping her to deceive and cheat a future husband, since he will think that she is a virgin when this is not the case.

And Allah knows best

Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

Excerpted, with some modifications, from: http://islamqa.com/en/

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13. GETTING RID OF FETUS DUE TO ILLEGAL RELATIONS

Question :

I am Moslem single person, who lives in the USA. I committed adultery many times with the same woman. Now, the women is pregnant. I would like to know if I can marry her in order to solve the problem (I mean cover the scandal) so the baby will find a father and gets the name. Actually, unfortunately, I would prefer abortion and I wish to convince her to do that, but don't know if this is considered killing a person. If so, I would feel guilty because of that. I believe the embryo is about 6-8 weeks. Please I need your help as soon as possible, Jazak Allah Khair.

Answer :  Praise be to Allah .  

Firstly, my brother in Islam, I offer you my condolences for the faith that you lost during the times when you were committing adultery. For the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “When an adulterer commits illegal sexual intercourse, then he is not a believer at the time he is doing it, and when a drinker of an alcoholic liquor drinks it, then he is not a believer at the time of drinking it, and when a thief steals, then he is not a believer at the time of stealing, and when a robber robs, and the people look at him, then he is not a believer at the time of doing robbery.” (Al-Bukhaari, no. 2475) 

Have you not read what your Lord says in His Book? 

“And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin, and an evil way that leads one to Hell unless Allah forgives him)” (Al-Israa’ 17:32) 

Do you not know that Allah sees you wherever you are, and He hears you when you speak? 

Do you not remember the great blessings that Allah has bestowed upon you? For He is the One Who heals you when you are sick, the One Who feeds you when you are hungry and gives you to drink when you are thirsty. And He has given you the greatest blessing that He has bestowed upon mankind, the blessing of Islam. “Is there any reward for good – other than good?” (Ar-Rahmaan 55:60)

My brother, ask yourself, Whose dominion do you live under? Whose provision do you eat from? By Whose command do you live? Is it not the dominion of Allah, the provision of Allah, the command of Allah? So how can you disobey Allah? 

Perhaps you have forgotten the hadeeth of the Mi’raaj, in which the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:

“… then we proceeded and came to something like a tannoor (a kind of oven).” [The narrator] said: “I think he said, ‘in which there were clamouring voices.’” He [the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)] said: “We looked into it and there we saw naked men and women. Flames were coming to them from the bottom of it, and when the flames reached them, they made an uproar. I said to them [i.e., the two angels who were accompanying him], ‘Who are these?’ They said, ‘Proceed, proceed!’… I said to them, ‘I have seen strange things this night. What is this that I have seen?’ They said, ‘We will tell you…. The naked men and women in the structure that resembled a tannoor oven are the adulterers and adulteresses.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari in Baab Ithm al-Zunaat, no. 7047). 

So you must hasten to repent sincerely before death overtakes you, for the gate of repentance is open until the sun rises from the west or before the soul reaches the throat [at death]. Allah rejoices over the repentance of His slave, and He will change his bad deeds (sayi’aat) into good deeds (hasanaat).

Secondly, with regard to your question, “Do I have to marry her?”, this is the issue of the adulterer marrying the woman with whom he committed adultery. The answer is that it is not permissible for him (the adulterer) to marry her, or for her to marry him, until the label of adultery no longer applies to them. That label can only be removed through repentance. 

It is not permissible for you to marry her even if she is Jewish or Christian, because she is a zaaniyah (adulteress). Even if she is Muslim, it is not permissible for you to marry her because she is a zaaniyah.  And it is not permissible for her to accept you as a husband because you are a zaani (adulterer). Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

“The adulterer — fornicator marries not but an adulteress — fornicatress or a Mushrikah; and the adulteress –fornicatress, none marries her except an adulterer — fornicator or a Mushrik [and that means that the man who agrees to marry (have a sexual relation with) a Mushrikah (female polytheist, pagan or idolatress) or a prostitute, then surely, he is either an adulterer — fornicator, or a Mushrik (polytheist, pagan or idolater). And the woman who agrees to marry (have a sexual relation with) a Mushrik (polytheist, pagan or idolater) or an adulterer — fornicator, then she is either a prostitute or a Mushrikah (female polytheist, pagan, or idolatress)]. Such a thing is forbidden to the believers (of Islamic Monotheism)”  (An-Noor 24:3) 

The phrase “Such a thing is forbidden to the believers” indicates that this marriage is forbidden. 

“It is essential that both of you repent to Allah, give up this sin, regret the evil actions that have occurred in the past, resolve not to return to them, and do many righteous deeds, so that Allah may accept your repentance and turn your bad deeds (sayi’aat) into good deeds (hasanaat). Allah says (interpretation of the meaning): 

‘And those who invoke not any other ilaah (god) along with Allah, nor kill such person as Allah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual intercourse and whoever does this shall receive the punishment. (68) The torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein in disgrace; (69) Except those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous deeds; for those, Allah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allah is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful. (70) And whosoever repents and does righteous good deeds; then verily, he repents towards Allah with true repentance’   (Al-Furqaan 25:68-71) 

If you want to marry her, you have to be sure that she is not pregnant by waiting to see if she menstruates before you do so. If it becomes apparent that she is pregnant, it is not permissible for you to marry her until after she delivers the baby, in accordance with the hadeeth of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), in which “he forbade a man to use his water to irrigate the crops of another.” 

(Fatwas of the Standing Committee in al-Buhooth al-Islamiyyah magazine, vol. 9, p. 72) 

Thirdly, you say, “so the baby will find a father and gets the name” This is the matter of attributing the child of adultery: who is he to be named after? 

The answer is that the majority of scholars said that the child of adultery should not be named after the adulterer, because the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “The child goes to the owner of the bed and the adulterer gets nothing but the stones (despair, i.e., to be stoned to death).” (Agreed upon. Al-Bukhaari 2053; Muslim, 1457. Al-Mughni by Ibn Qudaamah, vol. 7, p. 129) 

Fourthly, you say, that you would prefer the woman to get rid of the baby. This is the issue of abortion, and the ruling on that is as stated in the report of the Committee of Senior Scholars (Hay’at Kibaar al-‘Ulamaa’), no. 140, dated 20/6/1407 AH, which is as follows: 

“1 – It is not permissible to abort the pregnancy at any of its various stages except for a legitimate shar’i reason, and within very narrow limits.

2 – If the pregnancy is in the first stage, which is forty days, and aborting it will serve a legitimate shar’i interest or ward off some harm, then it is permissible to abort it. But aborting it at this stage for fear of difficulty in bringing up children or in providing for them or teaching them, or fear for their future, or because the couple feel that they have enough children – this is not permitted.

3 – It is not permissible to abort the pregnancy once it has become an ‘alaqah (clot) or mudghah (chewed lump of flesh) [i.e., after 40 days’ gestation] unless a trustworthy medical committee has stated that allowing the pregnancy to continue poses a danger to the health of the mother, such that there is the fear that she will die if the pregnancy continues. In this case it is permissible to abort the pregnancy, after exhausting all other means of trying to ward off that danger. 

After the third stage, and after the completion of four months of pregnancy, it is not permissible for you to abort the pregnancy unless a group of trustworthy specialist doctors decide that leaving the fetus in his mother’s womb will lead to the death of the mother; this is after exhausting all possible means of keeping the fetus alive. Performing an abortion subject to these conditions is permitted in order to ward off the greater of the two harms, and to preserve the greater of the two interests.” 

(Quoted from al-Fataawa al-Jaami’ah, vol. 3, p. 1055) 

We ask Allah to keep us safe and sound and to accept our repentance. May Allah bless our prophet Muhammad.

Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid

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14. ABORTION OF A FETUS FROM A ZINA RELATIONSHIP

Question :

Is it permissible for a woman who has committed immoral actions to abort the fetus?

Answer :  Praise be to Allah .  

The efforts and ijtihaad of the fuqaha’ have focused on abortion in general terms, and the rulings on that and the consequences that may follow. They have not gone into details concerning cases where the pregnancy results from immorality. This may be because they consider that to come under the same ruling as abortion of a pregnancy resulting from a proper marriage. If abortion of a pregnancy resulting from a proper marriage is haraam under normal circumstances, then it is even more so in cases where the pregnancy results from immorality, because permitting abortion of pregnancy which results from immorality would encourage evil actions and the spread of immorality. One of the basic principles of Islam is that it forbids immorality and all the ways that lead to it, e.g., it forbids tabarruj (wanton display of one’s charms) and free mixing (of men and women). 

In addition, an innocent fetus which has committed no sin should not be sacrificed because of a sin committed by someone else. Allah says (interpretation of the meaning):

“… No one laden with burdens can bear another’s burden….” (Al-Israa’ 17:15)

It is known that the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) sent the Ghaamidi woman who was pregnant as a result of zinaa away until she gave birth, then after the birth he sent her away until she had breastfed the child and weaned him. She came back with the child who had a piece of bread. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) gave the child to one of the Muslims, then he gave orders that she should be placed in a hole up to her chest, and commanded the people to stone her.

Imaam al-Nawawi said concerning this hadeeth: “A pregnant woman should not be stoned until she gives birth, whether her pregnancy is the result of zina or otherwise. This is agreed upon, lest her foetus be killed. The same applies if her hadd punishment is flogging; a pregnant woman should not be flogged, according to consensus, until she has given birth.” (Saheeh Muslim bi Sharh al-Nawawi, 11/202) 

This incident shows us the extent to which Islam is concerned with the fetus, even if it is the result of zina: the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) delayed the carrying out of the hadd punishment on the mother in order to save the life of the fetus. 

Can it be imagined that the Lawgiver would permit killing the fetuses by abortion in order to fulfill the wishes of those who follow their whims and desires? 

Furthermore, those who say that abortion is permitted within the first forty days of a legitimate pregnancy based their ijtihaad on a concession, like not fasting in Ramadaan for those who have valid excuses, or shortening the four-rak’ah prayers whilst travelling, but it is stated in sharee’ah that concessions cannot be connected to sins.  

Imaam al-Quraafi said: “With regard to sins, they cannot be taken as reasons for concessions. Hence one who is travelling for the purpose of sin cannot shorten his prayers or break his fast, because the reason for doing these is travelling, but in this case the reason for travelling is to commit sin, so the concession does not apply, because granting a concession on the basis of sin will encourage people to sin further.” (al-Furooq, 2/33) 

Similarly, the basic principles of Islamic sharee’ah do not give the same concessions to a woman who is pregnant as a result of zinaa as are given to a woman who is pregnant as a result of proper marriage, lest that help her in her sin, and it does not make it easy for her to get rid of the results of her evil actions. 

In addition, the fetus in the case of zinaa has no guardian, because according to sharee’ah the title of father can only be given to the one who has a child from a woman in a proper marriage. This is part of the meaning of the hadeeth: “The child goes to the owner of the bed and the adulterer gets nothing but the stones (despair, i.e. to be stoned to death).” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari and Muslim). The guardian of the fetus in such cases is the sultan or ruler – the one who is in charge of the Muslims’ affairs – for he is the guardian of those who have no guardian. The way in which the ruler disposes of people’s affairs is based on the interests of the people, and there is no interest to be served in destroying the soul of the fetus in order to preserve the mother’s interests, because that would involve encouraging her and others to persist in this evil action. 

It is permissible to resort to aborting the fetus of a woman who has committed this evil action but now wants to repent sincerely, and is very afraid. This is a major principle of sharee’ah, and is subject to the condition that this be done as early in the pregnancy as possible, and that this fatwa be given only in individual cases and not be treated as a general fatwa, lest this concession becomes a means of encouraging evil in the Muslim society. And Allah knows best. 

(From Ahkaam al-Janeen fi’l-Fiqh al-Islami by ‘Umar ibn Muhammad ibn Ibraaheem Ghaanim)

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